‎When Saying No Makes You the Bad Person: Learning to Protect My Peace ‎

‎Hello Hives,
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‎Sometimes, life will make you understand that not everyone who is happy to have you around really value you for who you are. Some people only appreciate you because of what you do for them and how much you are willing to sacrifice just to make them comfortable.
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‎I have come to realize that when you are the type of person who always says yes, hardly complain and always try to understand everybody, people will see you as a good person. But the moment you decide to speak up or tell someone that you are not comfortable with something, everything changes and they begin to point finger at you. Suddenly, you begin to words like, you're proud, selfish or even difficult to deal with.
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‎Honestly, I think this is something many of us have experienced before. Sometimes we stay silent about things that hurts us because we don't want to create problems or lose people we care about. We keep adjusting ourselves just to make sure everybody is happy, even when deep down we know that we are not happy with the situation.
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‎But the question I keep asking myself is, who is considering my own feelings?
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‎I believe helping people is actually a good thing. There is nothing wrong with being kind, supporting others and making sacrifices for people we love. But kindness should not become a reason for someone to keep taking advantage of you.
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‎One thing I am learning is that saying NO doesn't automatically make you a bad person. You can respect someone and still disagree with them. You can love someone and still create boundaries. Not everybody will understand your decisions, and honestly, that is something we have to accept.
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‎Sometimes, people are not really angry because you have changed. They are only uncomfortable because the things they used to enjoy from you are no longer there anymore.
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‎I don't think life should be about pleasing everybody. We all have our own struggles, challenges, responsibilities and things we are trying to figure out.
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‎And at the end of the day, I would rather disappoint someone by protecting my peace than keep disappointing myself just to make them happy.
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