SARAH—WEAR MORE HEELS!

I see people dress in amazing style, combining colours and fashion accessories in ways that are almost perfect, and when they step into the room, they sort of light the room up in a certain way that makes me continue to adjust my stance and gaze back at them to get a better view. I wonder how they do it, really😒🙄, because I just want to be in trousers or pants almost all the time; it’s either that or I am unclad😑.

It is sometimes difficult for me to choose what to wear, and for me, my choices are influenced by where I am going, my mood that day, who I am going with, who I may meet, and how I feel about the clothes I eventually select.

Image credit is mine. I was heading out for ice cream on this day.

Where would I go that would require me to dress up? A wedding or a hangout, a party or a church? These places require special dresses, specially made for them. A wedding would probably have a specific material chosen, and we’d have to buy it and choose the style it would be sewn into. A hangout probably needs casual wear. A party needs a sexy dress or shorts. My church dresses have already been sewn, so I just have to choose one. As a Catholic, though, trousers aren’t allowed to be worn by women on Sundays.

My mood influences how I dress a lot as well; it affects whether I want to go all out and dress up so everyone will notice me—which rarely happens though, as my height calls more than enough attention. Most times, my mood chooses the subtle style—simple without being too elaborate.

Image credit is mine. Dressed for a wedding🌚.

Who am I going with? A friend? Or a lover? I wouldn’t care if my friend saw me in a short yellow dress and blue sneakers, but I would care if my lover saw me like that. A nice nude pair of heels would be a better choice, don’t you think?

The kind of people I am going to meet wherever I am going matters. You cannot dress awfully when you’re meeting dignitaries, and you can’t dress too conservatively for a poolside party. There are just some people you would want to leave a good impression on, so it matters how you dress.

Lastly, how do I feel about the clothes I have selected? Do I feel comfortable? Would I be sweaty today? Would I feel cold? This dress is short; I love it, but I don’t like how it exposes my arms’, and so I end up choosing something else instead🤭.

I always create a mental picture of myself in clothes and imagine myself at the place I am going to. When I do that, I create a good, serene environment in my head and imagine the best- and worst-case scenarios and ways to counter them before finally settling on my choice of clothing. There are many times I knew a dress would tear or I would lose a button before actually wearing it, and it always happens, but it never meets me unprepared as I may have a spare button, scarf, or sweater with me—even a needle and thread😩.

Image credit is mine. Dressed for a shoot.

Dressing up for my daily activities is easy enough. The moment I am back home from work, I mentally prepare what I want to wear for the next day in my head, and it never changes unless I am having a sweaty morning, and in that case, I would choose more breathable clothes. You can tell that my go-to clothes include trousers, shorts, or dresses. I do not like skirts at all😑. I no longer use make-up on a daily basis unless it's an important occasion.

I always keep in mind that I am addressed by the way I am dressed, so there’s always this thing in my head to dress up as decently as I can for the occasion. I don’t want to change anything except that I sometimes want to dress fashionablely and elaborately without feeling like I want the ground to open up and swallow me. I need more confidence. Also, Sarah, I am talking to you—wear more heels😑😅!