Looking for balance

In this week's proposal, @galenkp invites us, among other questions, to answer:

Do you prioritize more your relationships or your career?

I consider it a very interesting existential question and before I answer it, I would like to talk a little bit about the history that precedes this current moment of life.
 
Before my first child was born, I was a total workaholic, fully dedicated to my career and also with a strong focus on “being productive” because I had set out to meet certain goals I wanted before I reached 30 years old.

So, from the time I was 21 until I was 29 I worked tirelessly, and as a result of all that effort I made with my partner at the time (now my ex-husband), we managed in less than 8 years to buy our apartment, vehicles, and other material goals. Along with these material rewards, we had a career on the rise, as we worked so hard in what we did in our jobs we were promoted very quickly and before we were 30 years old we had already held management positions while we were still very young.

Just when I was 30 years old, Miguel was born, and with him our whole world changed, our priorities were no longer material, but to make room for a new member in the family who undoubtedly came to move the floor of everything we had built.
 
We began to regret being so committed to work because in that new family dynamic, we required time at home, and more free time with our baby, and as corporations were not getting from us the same productivity as before, things began to get complicated at the work level.
 

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Our marriage collapsed, and while it is true that this was not the only reason, or perhaps not even the trigger for the divorce, I feel that being so workaholic in our early years of marriage kept us from laying a solid emotional foundation that would allow us to overcome being more consolidated as a couple to overcome adversity together.

In the midst of the chaotic situation of the divorce, some “colleagues” at my work began to take advantage of my moment of distraction to throw away all my years of work. I realized there was no point in having been so productive and efficient if at the slightest hint of personal problems they turned their backs on me. I also experienced loneliness and isolated myself for many years.

Throughout this process I realized that I did not have my priorities clear, that I had been pointing to a north that in reality would not lead me to success but to a path paved with suffering, that although the career or job should occupy an important place in the life of any person because it leads to self-fulfillment, it should not steal time in other important areas of your life.

Thus began my search for balance in my life, that point of equilibrium that allowed me to begin to value more the people around me who truly esteem and support me, I really met those who are my friends, I became more present in my family and as incredible as it may sound, I became more present in myself.

Today I see that level of evolution and I am very happy to see that you can change your paradigms at any time, paradoxically the change of priorities did not make me neglect my work, I am still equally busy in giving the best of me in my profession, I keep myself constantly studying and trying to be very competent in my work area, only now my attention is not focused 100% on it but in the proportion that corresponds to it.

And although I am still looking for balance because I would like to have more time available for myself, I can say today that my life has changed a lot.
 
Thank you @galenkp for this proposal. I invite @rosahidalgo and @charjaim to participate.

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 Blessings and good vibes to all. See you soon!
 

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