Red flags in relationships

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No matter how people justify it, no matter how many sermons they give to prove that love is not blind, I can never concur with that because love is blind. That is why a lot of people in love will see red flags but find it hard to pull out of such relationships. Some do not even see the signs at all, while others see them but find nothing wrong. Do you think it is ordinary? It is the blindness that comes with love.

Forever and always, I will applaud the song "Love Is Wicked" by Brick & Lace. A song most of us grew up dancing to without understanding its meaning, but now that we have grown, we can finally see what they saw back then when they created the song.

As for me, I have been blindfolded many times in love, failing to see the thick red flags right before my eyes. Sometimes, I saw them, but because I was deeply in love, it was hard to let go. I will not claim to have mastered everything about love—no, I am still learning. I must also admit that I could still be blinded by love in the future, but I hope it will be in a positive way. Yeah, the good kind of blindfolding. Lol.

The following are some red flags that I easily kick against and will walk out of any relationship for:

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1. When a partner is always RIGHT and never says SORRY

This is a big red flag for me. I do not joke about it because I cannot imagine being in a relationship with someone who never acknowledges their wrongdoings and always expects me to apologize and agree to their terms. No way!

I have been in such a relationship before, where the lady was acting on a strong feminist ideology—always standing her ground and never ready to say sorry for her mistakes. The only times she agreed to apologize were when I pressured her to do so, after thoroughly analyzing the situation and making her see beyond all reasonable doubts that she was wrong. Well, that kind of "sorry" cannot be genuine because it was forced out.

2. Total financial dependency

I know the ladies reading this will frown at me, but I do not care. I hate it when a lady, especially at the start of a relationship, pours out her total financial dependency on the guy. That is wrong! It shows that she is not in it for anything serious. Yes! Come and quote me wrong.

I have also been in such a relationship, where, in the first week, I found myself footing the lady's major bills. By "footing bills," I do not mean buying airtime or data—no, I mean significant expenses like dresses, shoes, and other costly things. I knew it was a red flag, but because love had blinded me, I stayed put and continued "being the man." However, when the love finally cleared from my eyes, I realized I had gone too far. One day, I attempted to calculate the major expenses I had incurred, but I had to stop midway to avoid getting even angrier because the amount was already huge.

To me, a relationship should lead somewhere, and if it is not heading in any meaningful direction, there is no point in pushing through with all these financial demands.

There is a lot more to say, but permit me to stop here because reminiscing about those days is making me feel bad about how blindfolded I was in love back then. Lol.

Thanks for reading.

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