Evolution of marriage: duty or love ?

Marriage is a union between two people. Basically it officiates fiancées or couples. In my part of the world marriage is a big deal , when you reach certain ages people automatically expect you to get married or atleast have a fiancée and once you pass this age group, people again would point hands at you because you are not married yet. They will automatically assume there is a problem somewhere . That is the sad truth. Yet many who marry due to this influence are in unhappy marriages

In my opinion, For a marriage to be successful, both parties should perform their duties, respect and love each other. In the old times marriage was much based on duty. “Do your part I do my part kind of thing” . Once the two parties both perform their duties they would have a peaceful marriage, besides in the old times people do not date before they decide to get married, but some cultures had courtships. Mostly marriages were arranged by families of both parties. Over the years the concept of marriage has changed. In some part of the world the change is highly significant and in others it is not very significant. Marriage is much more of love than duty nowadays. A combination of the two is perfect though. FYI I am not a marriage expert, just my humble thoughts 😂. Marriage was totally different back then, once you get married you both have your individual roles to play to keep the marriage in harmony. We live in generation where people often marry out of love though others may marry for other reasons especially money or wealth. The problem with modern couples is that when their love is been tested they give up. Not all couples though. I believe they give up because the main reason they married was love and now this love is broken.

 
These changes in marriage concepts in a way is actually good . People mutually settle with whom they want to, they have their free will. And this strengthens the marital bonds better because there is love. Love plays a big role too when it comes to marriage. After all happiness is priceless. But in the old times there was not much emphasis on love just mainly duties , problems only arise when either one or both parties fail to do their duty . As long as they keep to their duties the marriage holds and if they are in love it is a plus

Generally these changes in marriage over the years (from duty to love) is not bad but a combination of they two is best.

Thanks for reading and see in my next post. Bye👋