Marriages then and now, what changed ?

It's been a long while in this community but believe me, I miss all the amazing topics from this community. Thank you #hiveghana for a topic like **MARRIAGE AND CHANGE**  

My first question to everyone is,Is marriage a do-or-die affair?

Marriage instituted by God is never a do-or-die affair, it was founded for love, mutual respect, multiplication, satisfaction, and personal growth. Why has marriage turned into a war zone? People have missed the concept of marriage forgetting the reason behind marriage as a life dedication, commitment, duty, and obligation.

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Marriages then were built on a till death do us part quote, the spirit of endurance, perseverance, contentment, respect, and truthfulness were in our mothers and fathers of those days. But nowadays, the story has changed, marriage is no longer the same. The couples nowadays fight for equal rights, personal growth, and respect has become a thing of the past.

Some months ago, my cousin's wife called my attention to some of the things she has been facing as a married woman to the point, that her husband pushed all the responsibilities on her for example, school fees, rent, electricity, food, etc and with that, he still beat her to stupor if she didn't cook as a result of no money😭 and my cousin brother won't drop a penny.

I was so disappointed in my cousin's brother's behavior. How can he not be responsible? perform your duties as a husband and father? After much thought, I called and expressed my displeasure hoping to see him change but all to no avail. Just last week, I pushed a call through to my cousin's wife to pack her few things and leave the house to see if the changes would come or not.
Why did I encourage her to do this? This is because MARRIAGE IS NO LONGER TILL DEATH DO US PART

Did it shift from duty to love?

Yes,

• Marriage is now more focused on emotional connection, companionship, and personal fulfillment. If there's no money, there's no marriage just their selfish interest.

• Couples strive for equal roles that's why they share responsibilities in all aspects such as bills, the husband can even be claiming it is the wife's duty to do this and that forgetting women were created to help not to be the head. and mutual support.

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How has this impacted expectations for modern couples?

• The world of technology has redefined everything including marriage. People are no longer in the dark days of till death do us part. If you check around, you will agree with me that marital abuse is killing a lot of couples than Malaria. This is not limited to beating and fighting alone, what about the emotional abuse? The majority left their marriages not because of physical abuse but also all other forms of abuse.
• Modern marriages of today have adapted to societal shifts, imbibing new values and expectations while they forget the core significance of marriage.
• Modern couples propose their relationships to suit their unique needs, values, and goals. They make it real by rising together.
• Marriage is now a collaborative journey, with partners supporting each other's growth and aspirations. Two cannot work together unless they agree according to the bible.
• Modern couples embrace challenges, adapt quickly to a new life, learn from failures, and redefine their relationship as needed. Two wrongs can never make a right👍
  Marriage is no longer limited to nuclear families alone, blended families, and same-sex couples among others are increasingly common nowadays.

Do these changes create stronger bonds or more uncertainty?

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1. Couples build stronger connections through trust, open communication, empathy, and shared experiences.
2. Modern couples state the number of kids they plan to have at the initial stage of their marriage so they won't go beyond the budget. Everything is planned accordingly.
3. Couples seek personal growth, emotional intelligence, and a sense of purpose within the marriage.
4. Couples face new challenges, such as navigating non-traditional roles and values, managing conflicts, and maintaining emotional intimacy.
5. Modern couples embrace change, navigate challenges together in oneness, and redefine their relationship to suit their taste.

Marriages that have been transformed compared to the days of our forefathers. Couples are building stronger relationships, and more resilient bonds, embracing the complexities of modern marriages with love, understanding, and a deep commitment to foster their relationship.

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