An honest ranking
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This is for the #weekend-engagement challenge: Click here for the post.
This is the first time that I'm participating in this challenge, as I just found this community. The task #2 is to rank the following skills and attributes by importance, and to defend the ranking with arguments: Manners, communication skills, relationship-building, honesty, generosity and humility. Let's see... 🙃
1. Honesty
This is the base for everything. Of course one can do all the others without being honest, but then it would not lead to a good outcome. First of all, in order to truly be able to develop all the other skills and attributes, one has to be honest to oneself. It's not easy, especially when our actions are not aligned which what we perceive as our values - then it's easier to lie to oneself, find excuses and do everything in order to avoid responsibility.
2. Communication Skills
Being able to communicate is another key. That includes first of all the mentioned communication with oneself, aka thinking. Sounds easy, but our sub-consciousness is quite the B sometimes, always out to trick us. Then, being able to express oneself is important to be understood, as well as being considerate with others in order to understand them.
3. Relationship-Building.
If we already are communicating well honestly, relationships will get to a whole other level. I'm a social creature, but I do need some depth in my relationships, enabling real connection. Building that kind of relationship is not easy, but worth it. Having a vast network of different relationships is helpful in all aspects of life. I learned a lot from the older people that I know. I learned a lot from a friend who has opposite political views. I learn a lot from the hedonist. I learned a lot from the people that hurt me. But that all took a lot of communication skills, mostly on the receiving end. I hope that I was able to teach, too.
4. Generosity
Share what you have, especially if you have more than enough. Not to show off, nor as an ego-boost, but knowing that what we give with good intention will circle back to us eventually. That doesn't mean to give everything away all the time, but to share surplus. And not only material, but also energy (helping someone) or time (listening).
5. Manners
A part of communication skills. Manners are based on the culture we live in. In Germany, being punctual is part of showing manners. In Ecuador, nobody cares, but you're frowned upon as weirdo when you arrive on time. Learning the manners of our culture is a sign of respect, as manners themselves are manifestations of respect towards others. It's also a result of where we come from. Good manners open every door. Those who understand the manners and can act accordingly, will find it very easy to move in different peer groups.
6. Humility
Don't brag about yourself. But neither be falsely humble. Know yourself, be honest about yourself, have enough self-esteem to say "I'm good at that", but also to say "I'm really not good at that" - and always ask "What and how can I learn?"
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